Do you feel nervous or fearful in your relationship?
Are you afraid of your partner's temper?
Do you have to be careful to control your behavior to avoid his/her anger? Do you feel like you are always “walking on eggshells”?
Are you afraid to say “No” to sex?
Do you feel powerless in your relationship?
Are you scared of disagreeing with him/her?
Are you afraid to break up with your partner?
Does s/he criticize you, or humiliate you in front of other people?
Does s/he check up on you or question you about what you do without him/her?
Does s/he act controlling?
Does s/he repeatedly and wrongly accuse you of seeing other guys/women?
Does s/he tell you that if you changed s/he wouldn't abuse you?
Does s/he act jealous of the time you spend with other people?
Does s/he make you feel like you are wrong, stupid, crazy, or inadequate?
Does s/he call you names?
Does s/he ignore your feelings?
Has s/he ridiculed your most valued beliefs, your religion, race, class or sexual preference?
Has s/he ever scared you with violence or threatening behavior?
Does s/he tell you what to wear, or how to do your hair?
Does s/he prevent you from going out or doing things you want to do?
Do you feel that, with him/her, nothing you do is ever good enough?
Does s/he say that s/he will kill or hurt themselves if you break up with him/her?
Does s/he make excuses for his/her abusive behavior by saying it's because of alcohol or drugs or because s/he can't control his/her temper, or that s/he was 'just joking'?
Does s/he hate spending time with your family and keep you from seeing your friends and family?
Does s/he withhold approval, appreciation or affection as punishment?
Has s/he manipulated you with lies?
Has s/he taken your car keys or money away?
Has s/he subjected you to reckless driving?
If you answered yes to any of the questions above, you could be in an abusive relationship, or a relationship that could become abusive. Remember, we don't believe you deserve to be abused, no matter what. Together we CAN find a way...312.413.8206
Changed & Used with permission from: a guide for girls on love, respect and abuse in relationships The Domestic Violence & Incest Resource Centre (DVIRC), Melbourne, Australia. (c) 1998