The Plan for Student Survivors of Domestic Violence
Here are several things you can do to help yourself and/or your family.
Make an Emotional Plan
This is not your fault! No one deserves to be treated in an abusive way!
Seek outside help in a support group or in counseling. UIC offers free counseling services—call them @ 312-996-3490.
Share your emotional issues with a trusted friend. It is important to have a good support system to get through this.
Abusers will often isolate their victims; reach out to friends and family you may have not connected with in a while.
Make an Economic Plan - if you live together. Try to save small amounts of money; keep them in a safe place like a safety deposit box or a family or friends.
Open your own savings account; if you live together, do not have the statements sent to your home; get a P.O. Box or pick them up at the bank.
Leave some extra money at a family member's or friend's home.
If you want to try and stay in school The Campus Advocacy Network @ 312-413-8206 can refer you to offices that can help you get through tough semesters, or withdraw from classes so you can begin again later.
If possible get a part time or full time job—check out student employment opportunities.
Identify family members or friends who could lend temporary financial support.
Consider taking out extra student loans to help pay for a new apartment.
Investigate student housing options—emergency loans and housing are sometimes available. The Office of Student Affairs can help with this: call 312-996-4857.
Make a Home/Date Safety Plan : If you feel your life is in immediate danger:
Call the police , 911 or on campus 312-996-HELP
Get rid of or hide knives and guns or unload all guns
Avoid arguments in the kitchen as this is the most dangerous room in the house
Avoid going on long trips alone with your partner
Tell your RA/roommates about the situation
Arrange for double dates—if possible try not to be alone with your partner
If the abuser also lives in your residence hall, try to get transferred into another building, switch rooms etc—the Campus Advocacy Network can assist in facilitating the transfer
Try to let friends, roommates and RAs know where you are going and when you should be back—check-in with them while you're out
If your abuser has a copy of your key, request that they return it to you, or change your locks—24 hour lock service in Chicago is: Amazing Lock-773-935-8900, Security Shop- 773-525-6705
Prepare an overnight bag ahead a time:
If you live with them: Include keys, emergency phone numbers, money for calls or a prepaid calling card, a change of clothes for you and your kids (if you have children), and medications
Don't forget important documents such as birth certificates, resident cards, social security cards, student loan info and schedules
Arrange for pets to stay at a friends or a kennel
Arrange for a safe place to leave your school supplies, such as a trusted friends' place, the locked trunk of your car, etc.
Prepare an emergency date escape pack ahead of time!
If you are dating them:
Include keys, emergency phone numbers, money for calls or a prepaid calling card , money for taxis, pepper spray and a whistle.
Carry as many forms of ID as possible, license, state, school etc.
Seek Legal Protection Under the Law
Call the police and tell them the situation— The UIC Police emergency # is 312-996-HELP
Call a hotline or a shelter to locate a domestic violence court advocate City of Chicago 's Domestic Violence Help line # is 1-887-863-6338
Try to get an “Order of Protection” to protect yourself from further abuse. The UIC Campus Advocacy Network can assist you in getting Orders of Protection —call 312-413-8206
Do NOT try to mediate with your abuser
When you feel threatened:
If you live with them:
If you have kids, alert your children with a pre-arranged signal to get dressed and stand by the door.
Grab your prepared overnight bag
Find safe temporary shelter until you are sure you can safely reenter your home.
Seek medical treatment when needed.
When you feel threatened:
If you are on a date with them:
Use your emergency pack and get to a phone.
Find a place to stay for a few days, somewhere they can't find you.
Seek medical attention when needed