Anxiety is a sense of dread similar to fear but with one important difference. The person cannot say what he or she is afraid of. This makes the dread feel worse since it is vague and nameless, but the anguish is every bit as intense, if not more so, than when you know what you're afraid of.
Defenses find their origins in normal coping styles that were once appropriate to a certain developmental period. A young child who uses DENIAL may be coping with the world in the only way he or she knows. An adult who uses DENIAL is invoking a means for managing his or her world that does not take into account that there are more mature means available for dealing with anxiety.
Defenses function automatically. A person does not have to think about which defense will be used in order to handle stress and anxiety. In a well operating system, a barely detectable threat of anxiety is sufficient to bring the defensive network into play. Often people have no idea at all that their response is defensive and equally often, do not appreciate being told that they are defensive.
Defenses sacrifice reality to a greater or lesser extent. A defense's main purpose is to change experience so that anxiety will not be felt. If that requires reshaping reality in order to achieve that goal, it will be done. In some cases, the reshaping is unnoticeable. In major psychological disturbances, the loss of reality is blatantly apparent.
People seek help when defenses are disabled, no longer work. It is also true that psychological help is likely to further disable defenses and the person being helped is likely to feel greater anxiety for a time rather than less.
A frequent form of projection is seen in the person who never takes responsibility for anything. Nothing is ever that person's fault. The exam is failed because the professor asked stupid questions. He is late because the trains are never on time. She was fired because the boss had something against her.
DENIAL: In the simplest terms, denial is a way of saying that something that is too painful to deal with is simply not so. It is the kind of disbelief that follows hearing about the sudden death of someone who is near and dear. "I can't believe it" is really a form of "I don't want to believe it." The impression you get of someone who employs denial is of someone who is wearing blinders, refusing to see what is obviously there.
SOMATIZATION: This defense involves translating an emotional problem or conflict into a physical symptom. Tension headaches, colitis, ulcers, and spastic colons are symptom pictures that are likely to involve a strong psychological component. Instead of dealing directly with the "problem," it is symbolically expressed in a physical symptom.
RATIONALIZATION: To rationalize is to offer sound, acceptable, intellectual, often seemingly irrefutable reasons for why you do what you do. Since most actions are motivated by more than one reason, rationalization involves picking the "best" reason to present to the public and even to yourself. It is designed to keep the "real," less acceptable motive out of conscious awareness.
ISOLATION OF AFFECT: This defense involves a split between thoughts and feelings. Painful, troublesome, frightening feelings are removed from the thoughts they usually accompany and forced from conscious awareness. This defensive style is recognizable in the person who is able to talk about things that would ordinarily make a person wince without any noticeable feeling. A doctor describing a mutilated accident victim in cool clinical terms is someone who is adaptively using isolation of affect.
REACTION FORMATION: This defense involves turning the forbidden wish into its opposite. If the unacceptable wish is to be overwhelmingly dependent, this defense would be expressed in terms of exaggerated independence and autonomy. Another example is the person who feels an uncontrollable need to drink. Under the influence of reaction formation, this person might become a member of a Temperance Society that forbids all drinking, pickets taverns, and does everything possible to stop the entire world from drinking alcoholic beverages. The key to recognizing this defensive behavior is that it is "too much." The person seems to be on some kind of holy cause that is pursued unrelentingly and rigidly.
INTELLECTUALIZATION: This defensive style is a cousin to Isolation of Affect. Feelings are not allowed into consciousness. Instead, issues are discussed in a hyper intellectual manner. Everything is examined from every possible point of view. Everything is taken seriously; humor does not seem possible. A person who intellectualizes seems to rob life of its spontaneity and replaces it with an exaggerated sense of seriousness and microscopic scrutiny.
AVOIDANCE: This is not a very sophisticated defense although it may involve a great deal of rearranging of one's life. Its intent is to keep the person away from whatever it is that generates anxiety. Thus, if a person is made uncomfortable by crowds, the person simply never gets into a situation where he or she will be in a crowd.
REPRESSION: This defense is the cornerstone of all the defenses. Every defense involves some component of repression. To repress something is to lose it from conscious awareness. Repression functions automatically. You just forget. If you've ever forgotten a dentist appointment, you have some understanding about how repression works. Memories and feelings that are charged with painful content become lost behind a barrier that is experienced as impenetrable.
SUPPRESSION: Similar to repression in that painful thoughts and feelings are lost to awareness. This tactic involves an act of conscious will. It requires a decision to forget. "I am not going to think about that" comes close to capturing the essence of suppression.
DISPLACEMENT: Feelings that belong to one particular person are transferred to another. If the boss makes you angry but expressing that anger might cost you your job, you might express that anger at a subordinate or at your wife or husband. This is a version of "coming home and kicking the cat" for all the bad things that happened during the day. It is important to keep in mind that the person is unaware that a displacement has taken place. The person may not even be aware that he is angry at the boss; he is simply aware that he is angry or upset and the most convenient and available target catches the anger.
DISSOCIATION: This defense is among the more serious one. Large portions of experience are lost. Amnesia is a good example. A person can't remember having done something. The closest experience to a 'dissociative episode' is when we drive somewhere, get there, and can't remember having been involved in the process of driving the car at all. It was as if we were on automatic pilot; our minds were otherwise engaged. Another way dissociation is described is when we feel as if we are watching ourselves from outside our bodies. It is as if we have divided in two; one part doing and the other part watching.
SPLITTING: Not a defense in the classic, historical sense, this seems an important strategy employed to manage anxiety and other disturbing emotional states. This unconscious strategy involves disowning unacceptable parts of ourself and burying them in seemingly inaccessible parts of our personality. Unlike projection, these parts are not placed on someone else. It is a form of psychological surgery in which a scalpel is applied to fragments of the personality experienced as unacceptable to others and therefore unacceptable to ourselves.
DELUSIONS: A systematic set of beliefs that usually have little to do with reality. "I am the Pope." "I am the Queen of England." "The Communists are after me." "I possess the secrets of the universe and the FBI wants to get them away from me." Delusions usually take one of two forms: Delusions of grandiosity or delusions of persecution. They are attempts to resolve problems; the method, however, sacrifices and distorts reality in the service of strong, conflicted emotional needs. Delusions usually reflects a personality in a serious state of disintegration.
HALLUCINATIONS: Seeing or hearing something that isn't there. Hallucinations indicate a serious break with reality. Visual or auditory phantasies are substituted for a painful, conflicted reality. Initially, the hallucination may be comforting, a solace from pain and anguish. With time, however, the hallucinatory experience is likely to become as threatening as the reality they were invoked to escape. As with delusions, hallucinations are a sign of serious personality disorganization.
Ideally, the way a person solves problems should be related to the problem at hand. Different problems call for different problem solving techniques. The more techniques available, the more effective a person can be as he or she approaches the demands life imposes.
Maladaptive problem solving is very often rigid and unyielding. A person has only one technique and he employs it whether it is the best "fit" for the situation or not. If the method doesn't work, he/she has no recourse to anything else. Instead of shifting to something else, she/he is likely to just try harder doing the same thing. The results are often frustrating and self-defeating, but the person appears helpless to do anything else. In short, its like being caught in a rut that you can't climb out of.
Maladaptive styles are often the combination of defenses described above. The person who relies on denial refuses to see problems, denies their existence until he or she stands on the brink of disaster and then panic takes over. The person who relies on projection takes no responsibility for the problem. Instead everyone else is blamed for the problem and the projector attempts to escape blameless. The rationalizer manages to avoid the real reasons for what has happened and is also likely to exclude any emotional component that might attend the situation. Despite the fact that these styles are likely to solve very little, the user is highly resistant to giving them up and is probably unaware of the extent to which he/she uses them.
The people who call on the phone (in fact, all of us) have characteristic coping styles. Usually, if they are calling, these styles aren't working successfully. The caller feels frustrated in his attempts to deal with the problematic situation and also feels unable to do anything but what he has always done. Often he wants us to tell him/her what to do to "fix" things. Keep in mind that even if we knew what to do, the suggestion of a technique that didn't fit a person's personality would likely be doomed to failure, no matter how brilliant it was. For example, telling a person who is shy that she or he needs to be more assertive is sensible advice, even if the person can't use it. Telling someone to stop worrying is not likely to cause worry to cease instantly.
We can be more helpful if we can assist a person to identify his or her problem solving style, its strengths and weaknesses, the reasons why it is being employed even when it doesn't work, and help the person to consider options that might work. Often this means helping to see self-defeating behavior in the hopes that "insight" might lead to some change and increase in effectiveness.
This process of identification is a slow one. You will find that people resist seeing these things about themselves. This is not stubborn obstinacy, but a self-preservative position. Defenses are designed to protect us from painful awareness. Disabling a defense should be done slowly, patiently, sensitively, and according to the time frame of the caller not the liner.
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